The importance of reading and understanding this article cannot really be stated with mere words.

The reason is because if you do not understand the underlying principle behind this, you will flounder about aimlessly in the seduction community until you run out of gas, get frustrated, and then quit worse with women than you started.

With that said…

What exactly is the difference between someone who is “good with women” and someone who is good at seducing women?  At first glance, it looks like nothing much, they almost look like they’re the same thing.

The truth is, they could not be more different, and my question to you is simple:

What exactly are you “good with women” at?

You see, most people think that being good with women means they can make them laugh, means that they’re the type of guy that can naturally attract women, and other community-fed bullshit.

They start talking about being self-amusing, giving value to others, and other feel-good stuff that sounds great on paper and helps scam artists sell products.  All these products do is feed on the average guy’s image that there’s a ton of reasons why they’re not good with women yet.

Let me ask you… what does it actually mean to be naturally attractive to women?  Oh that’s right–when you take the root of the word natural and get NATURE, you would realize that the only requirement to be “naturally attractive” to a woman is to be MALE.

While we’re on the subject, what the hell does it even mean to “get good with women“?

Just take a look at most “pick-up artists” who are out in the wild, regardless of school of thought or anything… you’ll see that they are ALL trying to “get good with women“.

Unfortunately, all they get good at is falling for the delusion that they’re getting better at an abstract concept that doesn’t even exist in the real world.

To illustrate this point, let’s say you told your buddy a statement  like, “I’m going to go out and get good at stuff”. He would probably slap you upside your head for being an idiot.

Doesn’t that statement sound eerily similar to what most guys who try to get better with women say day in and day out?

Consider this article your therapeutic wake-up slap upside your head.

The dirty truth most guys don’t want to admit is that usually most guys who get into the community don’t ever want to get good at seducing women.  They keep claiming they want to “get good with women”, and it’s true–but their definition of “get good with women” really means getting good reactions from them.  They think that if you’re getting good reactions from a girl, she’s eventually just going to want to have sex with you.

And so the attraction-centered “seduction” community is formed, which supposedly will help you change yourself into the type of guy a girl is going to pick to have sex with.

That’s the ultimate male fantasy though isn’t it?  To attract women without ever having to face rejection.  How great would it be to avoid ever having a girl you’re attracted to thinking that you’re lame, asexual, and that she wants nothing to do with you?

This attraction-based community is commonly seen running around trying to hit state in order to say some stupid and silly ass shit to women because they think it is “alpha”, or to show that they are “indifferent”, and that it shows how “solid” they are to their pick-up bros.

The other ones feed off laughter and positive female affection from women they talk to.  They think they’re doing real great!  They tell themselves they were close to doing well with a girl and that they just needed to escalate more after a completely platonic interaction, oblivious to the fact that he quite possibly is not her sexual type at all and he just wasted 15 minutes of his life.

Do not be mistaken for a second, these guys are in it to tell themselves they “did good with women”, even if after talking to a few hundred women… they only get one or two hookups out of it.

Let’s take a look at what should be a pretty typical situation:

A guy randomly bumps into a girl in the street, a very brief conversation forms up organically.  They talk and flirt for a little bit, she’s laughing and saying things like “Oh my gosh, I’m so glad I met you today… I was kind of down but you really made my day!”

The guy feels electricity running through his body at the sound of how “pimp” he is, he knows he should probably try to instant-date her, but with things going so great, why risk a great interaction going badly?

So they part ways, the girl looks genuinely happy, the guy kicks himself a little bit for not “escalating” more and pushing it, but he’s happy because he “gave her value” and the interaction went well.  His buddy watched the whole thing down and walks over, congratulating him on how “good” he’s getting.

Let’s say the background story for this woman is that recently had her husband whom she loved passed away.  Let’s also say that because the conversation formed up organically, there was no trace of him trying to “pick her up”, and so she felt comfortable in talking with him.

There’s no way in hell she’s open to getting into a relationship or hooking up with another guy so quickly after her husband’s death, but she’s much more than happy to have a platonic, non-threatening guy regale her with funny stories and vibing with her.

Let me ask you something: what “good” came out of this for our hero, except for inflating some false sense of how good he is at getting a reaction out of a woman?  Better yet, what good did this positive reaction out of her do for him?

Because let’s twist the storyline a bit and say he escalated hard on her.  Now she looks horrified and runs away from him, telling him to get away.  Aww… the poor guy doesn’t have a pimp posh story to tell to his buddies anymore… how horrible.

He’s lost a great story to make him look good, but he gained experience in seducing a woman; regardless of how she responds to it.  He also knows that things will not work out between him and that woman, and it only took him a few minutes to find out concretely.

Two different sets of actions, two different results because of circumstance.  One he’s guaranteed to add firewood to the bonfire he has going on labelled “how pimp I am“, and the other he’s trading sure thing of a positive memory and experience for just a lame possibility of hooking up with her.

Knowing all that, is it any wonder that most guys don’t want to be good at seducing women?

Look, if you merely want to be a clown who is good at having fun with new women and meeting them in a platonic way, then sure!  You can keep trying to “get good with women”!  You can learn to give her more VALUE than a McDonald’s Extra Value Meal man!

Guess who else fits that same criteria?  Gay guys, who have arguably more fun with women and have deeper friendships and connections with them than you ever will.  Maybe a lifestyle change is in order for most aspiring pick-up artists?

If you’re straight though, I think you would have to agree that the real goal of any seduction is to actually SEDUCE the woman. (I know, it takes a genius to figure that one out right?)

Since seduction is really just enticing someone to do something they already want to secretly do as opposed to doing something they DON’T want to do, wouldn’t this be a good time for you to take personal inventory of WHAT exactly you do to try to seduce women?

Is what you’re doing helping you to seduce her?  Or are you engaging in blatant and counter-productive faggotry when you go out?

The HARDEST thing by far to do in seduction science is to GIVE UP being good at getting reactions from women, or purposely trying not to be funny or entertaining if you are naturally.

Nothing you do will EVER come close to moving a seduction forward quite like escalation.

I think that statement warrants being repeated:

NOTHING!

Not telling her funny stories, not cocky funny, not in-state bullshit, not being alpha, not being a caveman, not push pull, not NLP, not IMPRESSING her with anything that you are, none of that shit is ever going to be as effective FOR MOVING A SEDUCTION FORWARD as straightforward escalation.

My really good buddy performs improv comedy regularly as a hobby for audiences and he is one of the funniest guys I know because of it.  He told me it was one of the hardest things for him to actually “cripple” his conversations with women and to put a leash on the wild and hilarious tangents he would go off on.

He told me that to his surprise, when he switched to actively SEDUCING women instead of just merely having fun and being one of the funniest people naturally, he started sleeping with 4-5x more of the women he met while out.

To give up the things that most others think is your strongest suit is going to be one of the hardest things you ever do, but let me re-iterate that it is a necessary task if you want to truly be able to get good at seducing women.

Let’s create two hypothetical seduction situations, and you tell me which you would be more receptive to.  One you have a really famous international male celebrity who wanted to do you from behind– and the other is your average girl in every aspect who walked up to you, took your hand, and told you to follow her up to her place?

Yeah, I thought so.  Always remember that.  No matter how good you get at pushing buttons, making people laugh, having social proof, or any of that shit, none of that will EVER compare to the average guy following nature.

This is the core of the new wave of seduction.

Traditional seduction (if it can even be called that) relies on giving away every natural advantage that nature gives you.  In exchange, you are trying to fit some trendy model of what some random girl has in her mind about who she “wants”.

You are trying to logically convince her that you fit her picture of who she wants to hook up with that night.

The time-tested methods of natural attraction are rooted in the fact that nothing you can ever logically say or do will ever be more powerful than the forces of nature.

This same girl could be aghast at how such a socially repulsive guy is compelling her to mate with someone whom she doesn’t think she likes, and she knows THE ONLY THING she can do to stop this is to bait you into breaking rapport with her.

Do you see yet how trying to convince a woman’s logical brain to like you while paying little to no attention to her  raw and animalistic side is one of the most stupid endeavors you could ever set out to do?

You cannot awake a woman’s uncontrollable compulsion to mate with you at all costs by appealing to her mind of what she logically likes or not.  You can only awake it with a basic ability to keep the seductive vibe on, persistent escalation, and an ability to handle all her logical objections about how she’s not into guys like you without breaking rapport with her.

This night and day difference, my friend, is the difference between being “good with women” and being good at seducing women.

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We’ve all heard Aesop’s famous fable with the tortoise and the rabbit.  Contrary to the lovable children’s tale though, being slow and steady in seduction will absolutely kill your chances with a woman.  Allow me to explain:

When you talk to a woman, she has anywhere from 30 seconds to a few minutes to form a very quick opinion of who you are, if she wants anything to do with you, what kind of person you are, and what category you’re going to fit into.

You have a lame first 30 seconds, she’s going to suddenly realize she has bladder problems.  If you’re Mr. Wild and out-of-control “nimbus-blazing”, slick talking pick-up artist, she’s going to be mildly entertained at your eccentric behavior.  You do well over the next 2-3 minutes, you’ve successfully convinced her that you’re that “cool guy she met at the bar”.

Problem for you is “cool guy she met at the bar” is also the guy who she isn’t going to go home with.  You’re also “has-been” cool guy the moment doubt, hesitation, or performance fright creeps in.

Congratulations.  Within 5 minutes you have been labelled, categorized, and filed in her mind in regards to who you are to each other.

Now it becomes quite obvious why waiting awhile to make a move becomes one of the biggest things limiting your success.  You THINK you need to wait x amount of time before making an overt physical move.

The truth is you can make your “it’s on” move (ie. the mutual hand caressing test or kissing) as early as the first minute. And if she is initially attracted to you it will work.

Waiting too long just flat out kills your chances.  You have a good minute to 5 minutes before she concretely figures out all the details she needs to know about you in relation to her.  These first few moments are the probably the most powerful and influential ones you have with her, regardless of the outcome.  You can never shape who you are to her as strongly as you can in those first few minutes after you meet her.  Guys are usually at their best during the first few minutes of vibing when the sexual tension is strong.

You are a round lump of clay at that point.  Once it starts taking the shape of something, it’s hard to reverse its course.

I know this because I have screwed this up many times myself. There have been plenty of times when I had a strong sexual connection with a woman right away. She would look at me seductively and smile, we got really close and I could just feel that it was definitely ON.

But because all this was happening in the FIRST minute or two I thought I still had to wait a little bit before making that mutual physical move. (ie grabbing her hand). It’s as if I thought making an overt move so quickly would blow my chances forever or she would reject me because it’s too soon to do stuff like that.

The truth is there is NO set defined amount of time you need to wait before you can make it officially “on”. If attraction happens in the blink of an eye (seconds) then WHEN you decide to make that attraction official and mutual should be as soon as possible.

You Don’t Have All the Time in the World

Here is what usually happens:
When things are going really good at the beginning, you ASSUME you have “all the time in the world” to make that overt-mutual physical move. You figure you will get around to doing it (escalating) eventually. No hurry, no worries. She’s really into me.  But what ALWAYS ends up happening when two minutes turns into five minutes…and then into ten?
That initial sexual vibe starts to weaken. She moves slightly away from you. Now she isn’t smiling as much. She has already asked you the prerequisite getting-to-know-you questions. Then her friend comes over and interrupts the vibe.  Hmm.

Now you start doubting yourself so you put off making the OVERT move again as you WAIT until you can get things back like they were in the beginning.

You went from thinking it was TOO EARLY to make an overt-physical move to now being AFRAID to make an overt physical move.

The Bottom Line

The bottom line is you want to make the attraction “official” as soon as possible. And all that is at this point is making ONE overt physical move.  It’s really JUST about revealing and crystallizing the attraction that is already there, WHEN it’s there.

Here’s the kicker–just because she was attracted in the first minute doesn’t mean she is going to be attracted to you forever. The feeling of attraction and sexual tension fluctuates and dips like anything in life.  Your connection with her is not solid yet because in reality she just met you.  So the best time to make your overt move and make the attraction mutual is during that automatic spike in attraction that usually happens naturally during the first minute.

Obviously you want to take advantage of the attraction when it’s there. It just so happens that when you first meet a woman and you are the new mysterious guy you automatically get your best chance to make the attraction official.

The Key Point:
Once you make the overt move and your connection becomes mutual, your interaction with her can now survive the natural interest level fluctuations (the ups and downs) that are bound to happen throughout the first ten to fifteen minutes of hanging out.

Avoid the BIG LETDOWN
As soon as you sense the feeling of attraction, you want to make it official. That is the real point of escalation. Don’t put it off. It doesn’t matter if it’s only 30 seconds in. Take advantage of the fact that things are usually at their best in the first minute or two.

If I were to give you a new $100 bill that could potentially combust and turn into ashes at any moment, would you dilly-dally around in spending it?  You don’t know what the next 10 seconds, 30 seconds, or minute will bring.  All you know is the value of what you have right now.

If you have a genuine attraction connection between you and a woman, do NOT let it go.

If you don’t make the attraction official, it will feel like a big letdown for her later when her initial interest dips and nothing mutually physical has happened yet.  I’m sure you have noticed that it always gets a bit awkward when you start out FAST by escalating the vibe sexually but then you waste time dicking around with incidental touching and never make that mutual- physical move.

Once the initial tension/attraction starts to fizzle without something mutual happening, the vibe usually gets a bit weird.  This is the most common point where interactions die.  Most interactions never recover from this fast start and weak finish.

That awkward tension and weird vibe comes from a feeling that something was supposed to happen…but it didn’t.

You are now pretending to interact with each other in the “friendship frame” after starting out with a “strong sexual vibe”. You both know you are being fake so it doesn’t work.

The authenticity and genuine vibe of mutual attraction seeps out, and pleasantries fill its place.  Is it any surprise that this situation very quickly turns into “well nice meeting you”?

Vibe starts out strong > You think it’s too early to make overt physical move > Vibe weakens a bit > Now You are Afraid to make an overt physical move > Interaction Stalls > It gets awkward > Nice Meeting You

This also ties into the misconception that talking to a woman for a long time means you are doing good. I see it as just the opposite. In my opinion, if I see a guy talking to a woman for more than a few minutes without making an overt physical move… it usually means he is doing bad.

So remember fellas, when you’re handed a highly volatile $100 bill, use it to buy something tangible before it spontaneously combusts in your face.

Burning currency is illegal.  Don’t do it.

As a continuation of my last post, this is more of a rambling of my thoughts than an actual article but take it for what it is.

I switched on the TV the other day, and it looks like the singer Rod Stewart is going to be a dad again. This makes eight kids with what I believe is three, maybe four different women. Now this news got me thinking. This is just not possible for the average guy to do without going into bankruptcy. Only a man with a lot of money can withstand three divorces and support eight different children without going under.

One True Love Per Lifetime

The money allows these guys to have several long term “affection” relationships (marriage) throughout their lives with young hot chicks.   Now as we know, a young beautiful woman is not going to just give you her purity and affection for long periods of time without her agenda being fulfilled (marriage, kids, house).   So money allows these guys to deliver this agenda to several young women throughout their lives.

Regular guys?  Sorry, you only got one shot to blow.

Now of course a regular Joe can always remarry, but his chances of landing a young little hottie are low. Even if by luck he does got a young stunner, he will still have to provide her with her agenda. That’s another two kids, half of half your income (the other half is already going to wife #1 remember).

So most likely after a divorce you are only looking at getting a woman in her late 30′s with kids of her own.  You are no longer in the running for the young beautiful women.  Only the rich dudes can pull this off.

Well, let me rephrase that– you can too, but you will forfeit all your resources.  Many guys ignore this wisdom and do it anyway. Not surprisingly, they suddenly find themselves in financial ruin.

You can only take the ride of love once (meet, date, engaged, house – mortgage, married, kids) so you better learn how to deal with women now. Rich guys like Rod, he will take this wild ride a few times.  He can mess up once, twice or even thrice.

He gets a do over, a re-take.

But don’t envy these rich guys too much, because they are still afflicted with the same condition of not knowing how to properly keep a woman attracted over a long period of time. And they must know that these young sexy women will only stay with them if they deliver the agenda.

It’s not religion or pressure from society that leads to this social phenomena of women pretending they don’t love sex.  What is it that makes them say eww when you mention sexual stuff or pretend to be offended when you bring up some perverted topic?

Like most things in life, you only need to follow the money trail to get to the core of why things happen.  For the purposes of the rest of this article though, I will interchange the words “money” with “resources”, especially since that’s what money entitles you to at the end of the day.

Remember, when you diminish a woman’s purity (or just purity in general) you are actually costing HER resources.  Think about that the next time you wonder why a girl gives you a hard time about getting sexual.  You are costing her access to resources.  Purity is a hundred billion dollar industry.  There is an unbelievable amount of cash in purity stock. It’s just not smart financially for a woman to admit that she loves to have group sex and to pleasure two guys at once.  You won’t ever hear this stuff in public because women eventually have to sell some guy the fantasy of purity.

Why Women Hate Sluts

Why do women call other women sluts and get so mad when they show lots of skin?  Do you want to know the real reason her friends cockblock you?  Because when a woman acts slutty, she lowers the overall price of purity for all other women.  Purity like a stock, but the price is not based on the value of the company or a commodity, it’s value is based on a fantasy.  The stock price is based on the fantasy that women are somehow less sexual and less horny than us.  This is big business, and this is one that the 100 billion dollar industry has no interest in seeing go away.

How much money is invested in romantic dinners, roses, gimmick holidays like Valentine’s Day, etc.,?  How much money is spent in a typical courtship of a woman?  If women did not even attempt to put on an inkling of the fantasy of purity, would YOU be spending all your resources to please and placate a woman you were out on a date with?  If women were allowed to admit how anxious they were to get in YOUR pants, where would the long and expensive courtship process go?  We’d be more like ravenous animals than “cultured” human beings.

And so the charade continues, like something straight out of a martyr’s autobiography.  The more a woman can resist her desires and fool herself into thinking increased purity gives her more value as a person, the more entitled she feels.  In many ways, this is no different than the affliction of the delusional person that believes his one special thing makes him better than others.  Whether this is a tangible thing like an expensive car or a characteristic like being funny or alpha, there’s no doubt that at the end of the day, they’re all just empty “reasons” for feeling better about yourself and “reasons” as to why you should feel confident.

Notice how the only chicks who are honest about how much they love sex are the same ones gaining a massive amount of resources from it. For example: take porn stars and strippers.

They will happily admit the truth about how promiscuous they are, how much they love casual sex, and all sorts of other sultry things because they don’t lose any money by throwing purity out the window–in fact, they’ve found a way to make the truth profitable.

What’s your average looking girl say about women of these professions?  The only thing she can say about them as a misdirection.  Because the truth is that were she were stripped of her purity fantasy, she would fall from the equivalent of lavish royalty to homeless status.

I mean, what would you say if someone were to compare you to Brad Pitt and you needed to keep some amount of respect for yourself?  Most likely some little story in your life about how you’re REAL and all these other euphemisms which are all saying the equivalent of: “I have nowhere near the amount of resources this person has, I don’t have the ability to generate them either, so I will make some giant push about something trivial that I somehow believe the other person does not have the ability to have”

Sorry to burst your bubble, but you are not more “real” or in “touch with the people” than the same person who has busted his ass to get to where he is today.  In the same way, it is equally ridiculous for some average girl to conclude that she is somehow more worthy of a person or desirable in the long run than another woman who has managed to make a living without relying on the crutch of selling fantasy stock.

There is no Securities and Exchange Commission for your dating life, so the only way to prevent yourself from an Enron debacle is to smile amusingly the next time someone tries to sell you Monopoly property for real life resources.  She can make all the assertions in the world of what she expects from you before she will let you into her “Park Place”, but when you know it’s all a big joke, there’s nothing much more that needs to be said.

Just smile.

Be Genuine to Screen People

What a guy said recently:

The Best Part
After anyone talks for a long period of time about themselves, and you don’t comment on what they just said, they often feel a bit self-conscious. Hey, this is no secret trick. It’s just natural. Now don’t get me wrong, she is happy you were paying very close attention to her. But she never gets that validation she was hoping for. And lets face it – this is validation she is used to getting from everyone.

Salesman.

Oh Boy, Do I Have A Deal For YOU!

The mere thought of salesman conjures up images of snake oil salesmen who tell slippery lies and half-truths in order to get you to buy whatever sham and garbage they are trying to get rid of.  Everyone is wary around him and they are only about one notch below DMV employees in terms of likability.  If you bought a car from this guy and it fell apart magically a few weeks after the return period, I’m sure you wouldn’t be the least bit surprised.  Indeed, you would probably chalk it up to learning a life lesson and swear you’d never deal with such shady people again.

Let’s pause a second and take a look at a list of these masters of manipulation–what traits do they possess?

• Using superior verbal and communication skills to mask the fact he is selling an inferior product that isn’t worth anything
• Concerned more with pushing garbage onto everyone in sight than having his product help others
• Manipulation of others is standard operating procedures in order to pursue his own purposes
• Publicly scorned
• Social outcasts that no one wants to admit to being friends with
• Untrustworthy

The Seduction Community: Running On Cheap Attraction Tricks Since the 90s

Does this list of traits sound surprisingly and perhaps scarily similar to another sect of people?  If you thought the Seduction community, then you are extremely smart or probably just read the title of this article.  Indeed, the rare  student of seduction that does reach the highest levels of “salesmanship” in the craft is trait by trait exactly the same as the above.  In fact, many of the principles developed in the original community came from sales techniques used back then.

Notice the term that I used–rare. It is extremely rare that an individual becomes a master manipulator through the seduction community, and so the most common fate most have is the equivalent of an idiotic salesman.  If you read my previous study interlinking the cause and effect of trying to pull a fast one and manipulate womens’ emotions, these are the people who actually succeed less because they’ve traded whatever identities they had for the identity of a man who has those traits above.  They are doing the equivalent of  making a customer who comes in already wanting to purchase a specific car jump through so many hoops and making them deal with so much BS that they change their minds of wanting to buy a car in the first place.

What the heck?  I already said I'd buy, why are you still trying to sell me?

Congratulations!  Not only have you failed to match any prospective clients up with a vehicle, you’ve actually managed to drive away a few of the ones who were ready with money in hand waiting for you to bring out the paperwork for them to sign.

Everyone’s heard of one of these stories in the seduction community where some guy is so “centered”,  ”grounded”, or “solid” that he manages to pull multiple times in one night against all odds in some impossible situation.  All the fanboys grasp to these straws and tell themselves that this is their goal, that this is the picture of what being a “pick-up artist” or success with women means.  They try and live up to this impossible standard all the while tearing down their own self-esteem because they aren’t at that level.

The Similarities Stop Here

Ironically, this is actually where the split between the sales force and the seduction community occurs, because the salesman who counts on being able to sell ice to an Eskimo or sand to a Saudi Arabian prince on a daily basis is also the salesman that is buying his food with food stamps.  No one cares about the modern salesman’s most unlikely sales situations, there’s a reason why people ask what a person’s sales NUMBERS are.

If you’ve been following this train of thought so far, you’ll realize that the modern salesman is in fact just a successful business.  Unlike the traditional used car salesman, a successful business doesn’t need to be manipulative or benefit from your loss.  There is only one need a business has: to find out what your needs and desires are and matching them up with a solution that it has.

Even if you’ve never studied sales before, most of this should not come as any surprise to you.  The distinction i will make is that many times an organization’s success or failure will depend more on this core principle than anything else.

Top Dogs

For all the ingenuity, leadership, and things that a corporation like Apple has going for it–and despite the fact that it just passed Microsoft as the second largest company, there is another company that is much more large than it.  Exxon does not have the visionary leadership, innovation, R&D labs, and multiple-market domination that Apple has.  It operates in one industry.  That’s it.  And yet how is it superior to Apple in market cap?  It’s very simple.  While Apple has done an otherworldly job making modern day luxury items seem like necessary, cool, and hip items, Exxon has done an acceptable job providing natural resources to the world that are required for modern-life.

You see, at the end of the day: people commit and buy for their own reasons.  Don’t ever lose sight of that fact, because regardless of what most of the seduction community tries to preach, when a woman makes a decision to become involved with you, it is because you are fitting into some part of her agenda and plans.  How many men have women left who they were in love with because they unable to commit to the woman’s long-term relationship goals?

I swear, she likes me cause I'm special and unique like my Mommy said!

It doesn’t even have to be that serious either, if you were a hipster and a girl visiting from out of town who’s always wanted to hook up with one happened to meet you, she made the choice for herself before you ever even opened your mouth.  All you had to do was not mess it up by showing signs of dementia, insanity, or other warning signs.  The fence goes both ways too, you think you pick a girl because of this or that attribute you think she possesses.  The truth is she’s merely fulfilling a need or agenda you have.  And as guy, we have carte blanche to revel in the fact that immediate sexual gratification is one of our strongest agendas.  Don’t believe me?  If a hot girl were to stroll in and ask a straight man to get out there with her for a night of pleasure, even a caveman would be able to tell you the ending to that story.

And herein lies the moral to this whole story:  most guys  (regardless of if they’re into the seduction community or not) get led astray by society into thinking their best chances of getting with a girl is to be something they’re not in order to sell them.  And so they refine their sales pitch, the smarter ones refine their appearance and product and secretly wonder why their success rate is so abysmal.

Buy me and you'll be everyone's envy!  I swears!

Instead of trying to be successful by beating the odds like the anomaly that is Apple, take a page from Exxon’s book.  Offer her pleasure plain and simple.  You are a pleasure dispenser, nothing more and nothing less.  Every other guy is trying to trick her into getting herself some pleasure.  You’re not.  It doesn’t matter if any particular client doesn’t want your services.  Pleasure is a powerful thing.  The same dopamine and chemicals released by sexual pleasure are the same ones released when you do something as addictive as meth.  If you’ve never visited a methadone clinic, I’ll save you the time and emotional trauma by summarizing that 97% of these people are likely never going to be able to escape the habit.

Take a second and think about how many women are with absolute disgraces of men.  How many of them endure abusive relationships, mental red-flags, and other horrors?  How many of these same women will defend their mates with illogical and delusional reasons that make absolutely no sense to anyone but to her?  Modern day “love” makes both men and women do some absolutely insane things that make no logical sense at all.

The Power Within Every Human Being

This is the kind of power you’re playing with.

Knowing that, why would you ever make excuses or downplay what you can bring to the table?  Especially when you will probably be the one guy she’ll ever meet who will offer her this kind of pleasure with no foolery, no conniving, no manipulation, and most importantly with no strings attached.  This is natural attraction at its core– and with a few hundred thousand years of instincts built into this mechanism, I’d say it’s served its purpose very well.

Going Green

Given the choice of trying to convince others that you are something they want and offering them something you know they need, I’ll take the second one hands-down every day.  And luckily for you, while the adoption of electric cars and pure sources of green transportation arise and phase out Exxon’s prominence in our society, nothing is going to ever come up to make your pleasure offer obsolete.

Except perhaps the new iPhone, get one and you will get laid

Today, I would like to show you a very disturbing and shocking statistic on why your attempts to attract, impress, and convince women that you are cool may have way more dire consequences than you realize.  As I’m sure you’re aware, people can lie; but numbers cannot.  Tread lightly and take the numbers to heart.

A national study conducted by United States government showed that the average man sleeps with 7 partners throughout the duration of his life.  Why is this significant?   Regardless of your relationship and mating goals, only having 7 women throughout the course of your life means that you have a very small pool of women to sample.  Throw in the fact that you only have about 63 years where it’s possible for you to mate, (Life Expectancy of average male in the US: 78 – Age when reaching adolescence: 15 = 63 years) and suddenly reality hits you in the face.  Hard.

"Hello, I'm reality."

The Average Number Of Sexual Partners For Men is ONE Over An Entire Decade

I can guarantee that you have already known about this fact intuitively.  Sure, you might not have known it was 10.5 years, but take a look at ANY initial male to female interaction and you will see that “the proof is in the pudding.”

"I swear I'm not normally this desperate"

Normally cool men suddenly become extremely fake and become the poster-child for supplication.  They fawn over her every word even when she has said nothing of substance.  They’ll suddenly be willing to do things to make her life easier that they wouldn’t do for their good friends.

Their body suddenly goes into emergency mode and does anything and everything possible when it realizes that this woman could be The One.  No, not that “The One”, merely the one to end their dry spell.  10 years is a long, long time to flounder around aimlessly.

Your Sex Life

Feed a man the same food every meal for 10 months and put a new dish in front of him.  You can bet that the same type of thing will happen and his instincts take over and make him trip over his feet to make sure he gets it.

Leave a man with the same or no woman for 10 years?  Now it suddenly becomes much more clear why normally cool and solid guys will degenerate into the type of creatures that typically send women running.

I’m sure you’ve asked a female friend before what she looks for in a man and I’m also sure you were a bit puzzled by her answer.

“I just want a guy who’s real”
“All I want is a guy who treats me decent”
“All I care about is that he doesn’t cheat on me”

Her response doesn’t make much sense on the surface because pretty much you and all the people you know all pass these seemingly low-bar requirements.  She might as well have been saying it’s so hard to find a guy who has 2 hands and 2 feet.  We immediately dismiss what she said as crazy talk.

The truth is that this unnatural and beggar-like behavior is the single thing that kills your chances of hooking up with women the most.  An even more surprising fact is that most guys think they are actually tricking others when they put this fake persona forth in order to bait others to like him.

I’m sure you know that dude who thinks he’s so smart and slick.   He thinks he’s pulling a fast one on everyone while  everyone laughs at his obliviousness.  Don’t be that guy.

Statistics On EXACTLY How Much Trying To Attract Women Is Costing You

I promised you numbers, here are some that I have gathered over the last 3 weeks in meticulous fashion.  A homework assignment I give all my new clients is to talk to at least 30 women and to try and make her sleep with you using whatever tactics, techniques, humor, or comedy that you know.

I do this because I want to give them undeniable proof and a glaring contrast of how useless all their funny little jokes, lines, and supplicative behavior is as opposed to using natural attraction.

I tell them to keep track of everything; from how many interactions turn into phone numbers, how many of them end in kissing or makeouts, and how many of them turn into sex.

For each woman, the only categories the interaction can end in is:

1. nothing happened at all besides talking
2. got the phone number
3. kissed her
4. had sex

For example, if a woman gives you her number and then later you meet up and it turns into kissing but no sex after a week, then you put a tally under kiss and not number.

Here are the results of me running down and harassing 20 previous clients who have their numbers on hand:

Now this data is a bit confusing in its raw form, so I’ve taken the liberty to  convert it into something much more meaningful.  I took the total number of phone numbers, makeouts, and lays a client had and divided it by the total number of engagements he had.  In other words, I divided the number of milestones with a woman by the total number of women he talked to in order to rate his effectiveness and efficiency in using his time.  Now we have some useful and relevant data to work with.

We all desire to be better with women for different reasons and goals, but regardless of if you want multiple girlfriends, just a plain jane girl, or a hot stunner, these goals cannot start until sex begins.  Until you have a woman invest in you and you two mutually cement your attraction for each other with sex, nothing ever really begins.

With that said, I also took the total number of lays each client had and divided it by the total number of women he engaged, to get an idea of “ultimate goal efficiency“.  The other things could still pan into you sleeping with a girl, but until that happens, that’s all it is–a possibility.

The average amongst the 20 clients in ultimate goal efficiency was 3%.  In laymen’s terms, that if you talked to 100 women, you’re closing the deal with only 3 of them.

Not bad numbers by any means — except for the fact that if you do a statistical regression analysis on the average number of women who like each archetype of men, the lowest percentage that should ever hit is 5%.  That means that even if you have a collection of the most unattractive traits, at least 5% of the female population will be attracted to you.

Whoa–hold up there a second, how is it possible that fewer women are attracted to you when you are going out of your way to show them how cool and impressive you are?  It makes no sense, you must be doing something wrong right?  Maybe your lines need to hit harder, your jokes need to be a bit sharper, your frame a little stronger.

And so the story continues, you go about your business trying to improve these things and you see marginal improvement.  Most of my clients come for coaching right around Client 1′s level.  They’re pretty decent, can talk to women with a little prodding and can inconsistently close the deal.  With the usual progression, they’ll get to Client 15′s level after 6 months-1 year.

When he came to me, Client 15 was already running around talking to every girl in sight.  He’s been doing it for a long enough time that he has little to no fear and he’s pretty smooth with his lines.  If you watched as a bystander, you would swear he was the biggest pimp you’ve ever seen.  He has women laughing all over, frequently having wild outbursts that have people questioning if he’s drunk (he’s not).

The thing is, he has a dirty little secret that he doesn’t tell anyone about and very few people know that he is no longer improving much at all.  In fact, most of the time, he feels like he’s no longer having fun because he feels like the only thing his efforts are doing is barely keeping his skills in check.

This is by far the most common situation the advanced person who comes to me  has.  He’s in the start of a slump, he’s no longer having fun he’s more concerned about keeping his hard-earned skills from slipping.

Let’s be honest, talking to so many women with the intent to make them like you and only achieving your goal 5% of the time?  On top of that, nearly 4 out of every 5 women will have NO INTEREST in you.  To pile on the pain, it’s a double whammy because you were TRYING to interest her and make her like you.

This is the exact reason I tell all my clients to do this exercise, to see both sides of the coin right after one another for the drastic contrast.  And let me tell you, there is a DRASTIC difference.

Better yet — let me show you instead of telling you.

Here are the results from the same group during the course of a month after the experiment.  The only criteria I gave them was that you could only log down your statistics if you used the principles of natural attraction.  As you can see from the data, each client talked to far fewer people while leveraging mother nature to help them attract a woman.

This is to be expected, because it’s hard to suddenly stop doing something you’ve been doing your entire life.  Fortunately for my clients, the learning curve to adopt this new behavior is insanely short because of the night and day difference in results they get.  Here is the same data transformed into the same indicators of efficiency:

You can see from the following summarizing chart: commitment efficiency went from 17% to 56%, which is a 329% increase in efficiency.  As amazing as that change was, ultimate efficiency actually went from 3% to 28%. This is an increase of 933% in efficiency.

A Real-Life Example Of What A 933% Increase In Results Would Mean

To put a 933% increase into real-world terms (since none of us think in abstract numbers), if you were working part-time at McDonald’s as a “Fast Food Worker”.  You would be getting paid $7.48 on average (source: PayScale).  If you average the usual 28 hours of work a week and work 50 weeks out of the year, you would make $10,718 after a year of flipping burgers.  ($7.48 * 28 hours * 50 weeks).

What kind of lifestyle is someone on that kind of budget living?  You’re most likely struggling to meet basic needs, forget about living “the good life”.

"Damn man, for some reason these girls don't want to come around my crib no more"

Let’s say now that you got that 933% raise in your salary at work.  Would this make some kind of difference?  I’ll save you the math, you’re now making over 6 figures a year and your hourly rate just jumped to $70 an hour.

"Flossin' On The Cover Of Fortune"

The kind of life you would have before and after that 933% increase are worlds apart, and the contrast in the dating world is no different.

What does it say about your character and how you feel about your own worth when you’re acting like you’re in the presence of royalty in front of a woman?  What is the overlying message when one person is trying to impress and convince another person that they’re cool?  The list can go on using traditional psychological evaluations for why this unnatural and “trying to attract” women behavior kills your chances with women to even worse than your percentages should ever statistically go.

Here’s a study on speed dating that mentions the change in frame that completely reversed a trend in speed dating.  Typically women say yes to their speed date almost 2x fewer than the men.  In this study with one tweak, suddenly the women are the ones who are qualifying themselves.  Frame is a powerful thing.

Deluding yourself into thinking you are more effective than 160,000 years of human evolution is pitiful at best.  Humans have been reproducing and mating for even longer than we’ve been able to communicate verbally with each other with grunts or other guttural sounds.

The truth is, everything in our modern society is designed to minimize tension between men and women.  If it were not, we would be “wild and untamed” animals who run around having sex with everyone everywhere.  Men are taught to be nice to women, to cater to her needs, to get rid of any awkwardness as fast as possible–even if the reason it’s awkward is that she just rejected your advances.

Think you can win against mother nature?  Guess again.

You cannot win against nature.  To put the nail in the coffin on this topic, here is a highly referenced article on how the mathematical symmetry of a person’s face directly influences a person’s perceived beauty:

http://www.intmath.com/Numbers/mathOfBeauty.php

So there you have it — statistical proof that working with nature always bodes well for you.  There’s only 3 things that are necessary in natural attraction and seduction.

1. Meet woman
2. Don’t break tension even when baited
3. Make sex offer

For more information on how to attract women, check out this free presentation on how to attract almost ANY woman from your first words to her within 5 seconds:

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