The Modern Day Salesman, Seduction, And You

Salesman.

Oh Boy, Do I Have A Deal For YOU!

The mere thought of salesman conjures up images of snake oil salesmen who tell slippery lies and half-truths in order to get you to buy whatever sham and garbage they are trying to get rid of.  Everyone is wary around him and they are only about one notch below DMV employees in terms of likability.  If you bought a car from this guy and it fell apart magically a few weeks after the return period, I’m sure you wouldn’t be the least bit surprised.  Indeed, you would probably chalk it up to learning a life lesson and swear you’d never deal with such shady people again.

Let’s pause a second and take a look at a list of these masters of manipulation–what traits do they possess?

• Using superior verbal and communication skills to mask the fact he is selling an inferior product that isn’t worth anything
• Concerned more with pushing garbage onto everyone in sight than having his product help others
• Manipulation of others is standard operating procedures in order to pursue his own purposes
• Publicly scorned
• Social outcasts that no one wants to admit to being friends with
• Untrustworthy

The Seduction Community: Running On Cheap Attraction Tricks Since the 90s

Does this list of traits sound surprisingly and perhaps scarily similar to another sect of people?  If you thought the Seduction community, then you are extremely smart or probably just read the title of this article.  Indeed, the rare  student of seduction that does reach the highest levels of “salesmanship” in the craft is trait by trait exactly the same as the above.  In fact, many of the principles developed in the original community came from sales techniques used back then.

Notice the term that I used–rare. It is extremely rare that an individual becomes a master manipulator through the seduction community, and so the most common fate most have is the equivalent of an idiotic salesman.  If you read my previous study interlinking the cause and effect of trying to pull a fast one and manipulate womens’ emotions, these are the people who actually succeed less because they’ve traded whatever identities they had for the identity of a man who has those traits above.  They are doing the equivalent of  making a customer who comes in already wanting to purchase a specific car jump through so many hoops and making them deal with so much BS that they change their minds of wanting to buy a car in the first place.

What the heck?  I already said I'd buy, why are you still trying to sell me?

Congratulations!  Not only have you failed to match any prospective clients up with a vehicle, you’ve actually managed to drive away a few of the ones who were ready with money in hand waiting for you to bring out the paperwork for them to sign.

Everyone’s heard of one of these stories in the seduction community where some guy is so “centered”,  ”grounded”, or “solid” that he manages to pull multiple times in one night against all odds in some impossible situation.  All the fanboys grasp to these straws and tell themselves that this is their goal, that this is the picture of what being a “pick-up artist” or success with women means.  They try and live up to this impossible standard all the while tearing down their own self-esteem because they aren’t at that level.

The Similarities Stop Here

Ironically, this is actually where the split between the sales force and the seduction community occurs, because the salesman who counts on being able to sell ice to an Eskimo or sand to a Saudi Arabian prince on a daily basis is also the salesman that is buying his food with food stamps.  No one cares about the modern salesman’s most unlikely sales situations, there’s a reason why people ask what a person’s sales NUMBERS are.

If you’ve been following this train of thought so far, you’ll realize that the modern salesman is in fact just a successful business.  Unlike the traditional used car salesman, a successful business doesn’t need to be manipulative or benefit from your loss.  There is only one need a business has: to find out what your needs and desires are and matching them up with a solution that it has.

Even if you’ve never studied sales before, most of this should not come as any surprise to you.  The distinction i will make is that many times an organization’s success or failure will depend more on this core principle than anything else.

Top Dogs

For all the ingenuity, leadership, and things that a corporation like Apple has going for it–and despite the fact that it just passed Microsoft as the second largest company, there is another company that is much more large than it.  Exxon does not have the visionary leadership, innovation, R&D labs, and multiple-market domination that Apple has.  It operates in one industry.  That’s it.  And yet how is it superior to Apple in market cap?  It’s very simple.  While Apple has done an otherworldly job making modern day luxury items seem like necessary, cool, and hip items, Exxon has done an acceptable job providing natural resources to the world that are required for modern-life.

You see, at the end of the day: people commit and buy for their own reasons.  Don’t ever lose sight of that fact, because regardless of what most of the seduction community tries to preach, when a woman makes a decision to become involved with you, it is because you are fitting into some part of her agenda and plans.  How many men have women left who they were in love with because they unable to commit to the woman’s long-term relationship goals?

I swear, she likes me cause I'm special and unique like my Mommy said!

It doesn’t even have to be that serious either, if you were a hipster and a girl visiting from out of town who’s always wanted to hook up with one happened to meet you, she made the choice for herself before you ever even opened your mouth.  All you had to do was not mess it up by showing signs of dementia, insanity, or other warning signs.  The fence goes both ways too, you think you pick a girl because of this or that attribute you think she possesses.  The truth is she’s merely fulfilling a need or agenda you have.  And as guy, we have carte blanche to revel in the fact that immediate sexual gratification is one of our strongest agendas.  Don’t believe me?  If a hot girl were to stroll in and ask a straight man to get out there with her for a night of pleasure, even a caveman would be able to tell you the ending to that story.

And herein lies the moral to this whole story:  most guys  (regardless of if they’re into the seduction community or not) get led astray by society into thinking their best chances of getting with a girl is to be something they’re not in order to sell them.  And so they refine their sales pitch, the smarter ones refine their appearance and product and secretly wonder why their success rate is so abysmal.

Buy me and you'll be everyone's envy!  I swears!

Instead of trying to be successful by beating the odds like the anomaly that is Apple, take a page from Exxon’s book.  Offer her pleasure plain and simple.  You are a pleasure dispenser, nothing more and nothing less.  Every other guy is trying to trick her into getting herself some pleasure.  You’re not.  It doesn’t matter if any particular client doesn’t want your services.  Pleasure is a powerful thing.  The same dopamine and chemicals released by sexual pleasure are the same ones released when you do something as addictive as meth.  If you’ve never visited a methadone clinic, I’ll save you the time and emotional trauma by summarizing that 97% of these people are likely never going to be able to escape the habit.

Take a second and think about how many women are with absolute disgraces of men.  How many of them endure abusive relationships, mental red-flags, and other horrors?  How many of these same women will defend their mates with illogical and delusional reasons that make absolutely no sense to anyone but to her?  Modern day “love” makes both men and women do some absolutely insane things that make no logical sense at all.

The Power Within Every Human Being

This is the kind of power you’re playing with.

Knowing that, why would you ever make excuses or downplay what you can bring to the table?  Especially when you will probably be the one guy she’ll ever meet who will offer her this kind of pleasure with no foolery, no conniving, no manipulation, and most importantly with no strings attached.  This is natural attraction at its core– and with a few hundred thousand years of instincts built into this mechanism, I’d say it’s served its purpose very well.

Going Green

Given the choice of trying to convince others that you are something they want and offering them something you know they need, I’ll take the second one hands-down every day.  And luckily for you, while the adoption of electric cars and pure sources of green transportation arise and phase out Exxon’s prominence in our society, nothing is going to ever come up to make your pleasure offer obsolete.

Except perhaps the new iPhone, get one and you will get laid