What a guy said recently:
More often than not, when someone is telling me a story, all I can think about is that I can’t wait for them to finish. So that I can tell my own story that’s not only better, but also more directly involves me.
Zip It
Since you aren’t going to talk anyway, you will never even contemplate interrupting a woman when you are listening.You can just relax and focus on your deadpan face contact, getting close and grabbing her hand. Plus if you don’t talk, you know there must eventually be a pause in the conversation that will set up a moment of sexual tension. Nice.
The Best Part
After anyone talks for a long period of time about themselves, and you don’t comment on what they just said, they often feel a bit self-conscious. Hey, this is no secret trick. It’s just natural. Now don’t get me wrong, she is happy you were paying very close attention to her. But she never gets that validation she was hoping for. And lets face it – this is validation she is used to getting from everyone.
Yes, this silence may be awkward and create tense moment. But it’s awkward for her, not you. Because she was the one talking, she will be the one who feels judged, not you. In this case, the pressure is on her. Go out, listen a bit, and you’ll realize that this is the kind of thing that will make your normal interactions with women anything but normal.
Listening is a very easy way to make women feel like they are trying to impress you. Plus it sets up a powerful moment of sexual tension.
Start listening!
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Great tips man, way to make the most out of listening, it makes talking look worthless. It seems like instead of running from the natural tension, you actually like to create it. You are one of the masters of sexual tension, no doubt.
I hate talking myself, it’s so annoying to think of what to say. This is great for ppl like me