Mathematical Proof On Why Trying To Attract Women Fails

Today, I would like to show you a very disturbing and shocking statistic on why your attempts to attract, impress, and convince women that you are cool may have way more dire consequences than you realize.  As I’m sure you’re aware, people can lie; but numbers cannot.  Tread lightly and take the numbers to heart.

A national study conducted by United States government showed that the average man sleeps with 7 partners throughout the duration of his life.  Why is this significant?   Regardless of your relationship and mating goals, only having 7 women throughout the course of your life means that you have a very small pool of women to sample.  Throw in the fact that you only have about 63 years where it’s possible for you to mate, (Life Expectancy of average male in the US: 78 – Age when reaching adolescence: 15 = 63 years) and suddenly reality hits you in the face.  Hard.

"Hello, I'm reality."

The Average Number Of Sexual Partners For Men is ONE Over An Entire Decade

I can guarantee that you have already known about this fact intuitively.  Sure, you might not have known it was 10.5 years, but take a look at ANY initial male to female interaction and you will see that “the proof is in the pudding.”

"I swear I'm not normally this desperate"

Normally cool men suddenly become extremely fake and become the poster-child for supplication.  They fawn over her every word even when she has said nothing of substance.  They’ll suddenly be willing to do things to make her life easier that they wouldn’t do for their good friends.

Their body suddenly goes into emergency mode and does anything and everything possible when it realizes that this woman could be The One.  No, not that “The One”, merely the one to end their dry spell.  10 years is a long, long time to flounder around aimlessly.

Your Sex Life

Feed a man the same food every meal for 10 months and put a new dish in front of him.  You can bet that the same type of thing will happen and his instincts take over and make him trip over his feet to make sure he gets it.

Leave a man with the same or no woman for 10 years?  Now it suddenly becomes much more clear why normally cool and solid guys will degenerate into the type of creatures that typically send women running.

I’m sure you’ve asked a female friend before what she looks for in a man and I’m also sure you were a bit puzzled by her answer.

“I just want a guy who’s real”
“All I want is a guy who treats me decent”
“All I care about is that he doesn’t cheat on me”

Her response doesn’t make much sense on the surface because pretty much you and all the people you know all pass these seemingly low-bar requirements.  She might as well have been saying it’s so hard to find a guy who has 2 hands and 2 feet.  We immediately dismiss what she said as crazy talk.

The truth is that this unnatural and beggar-like behavior is the single thing that kills your chances of hooking up with women the most.  An even more surprising fact is that most guys think they are actually tricking others when they put this fake persona forth in order to bait others to like him.

I’m sure you know that dude who thinks he’s so smart and slick.   He thinks he’s pulling a fast one on everyone while  everyone laughs at his obliviousness.  Don’t be that guy.

Statistics On EXACTLY How Much Trying To Attract Women Is Costing You

I promised you numbers, here are some that I have gathered over the last 3 weeks in meticulous fashion.  A homework assignment I give all my new clients is to talk to at least 30 women and to try and make her sleep with you using whatever tactics, techniques, humor, or comedy that you know.

I do this because I want to give them undeniable proof and a glaring contrast of how useless all their funny little jokes, lines, and supplicative behavior is as opposed to using natural attraction.

I tell them to keep track of everything; from how many interactions turn into phone numbers, how many of them end in kissing or makeouts, and how many of them turn into sex.

For each woman, the only categories the interaction can end in is:

1. nothing happened at all besides talking
2. got the phone number
3. kissed her
4. had sex

For example, if a woman gives you her number and then later you meet up and it turns into kissing but no sex after a week, then you put a tally under kiss and not number.

Here are the results of me running down and harassing 20 previous clients who have their numbers on hand:

Now this data is a bit confusing in its raw form, so I’ve taken the liberty to  convert it into something much more meaningful.  I took the total number of phone numbers, makeouts, and lays a client had and divided it by the total number of engagements he had.  In other words, I divided the number of milestones with a woman by the total number of women he talked to in order to rate his effectiveness and efficiency in using his time.  Now we have some useful and relevant data to work with.

We all desire to be better with women for different reasons and goals, but regardless of if you want multiple girlfriends, just a plain jane girl, or a hot stunner, these goals cannot start until sex begins.  Until you have a woman invest in you and you two mutually cement your attraction for each other with sex, nothing ever really begins.

With that said, I also took the total number of lays each client had and divided it by the total number of women he engaged, to get an idea of “ultimate goal efficiency“.  The other things could still pan into you sleeping with a girl, but until that happens, that’s all it is–a possibility.

The average amongst the 20 clients in ultimate goal efficiency was 3%.  In laymen’s terms, that if you talked to 100 women, you’re closing the deal with only 3 of them.

Not bad numbers by any means — except for the fact that if you do a statistical regression analysis on the average number of women who like each archetype of men, the lowest percentage that should ever hit is 5%.  That means that even if you have a collection of the most unattractive traits, at least 5% of the female population will be attracted to you.

Whoa–hold up there a second, how is it possible that fewer women are attracted to you when you are going out of your way to show them how cool and impressive you are?  It makes no sense, you must be doing something wrong right?  Maybe your lines need to hit harder, your jokes need to be a bit sharper, your frame a little stronger.

And so the story continues, you go about your business trying to improve these things and you see marginal improvement.  Most of my clients come for coaching right around Client 1′s level.  They’re pretty decent, can talk to women with a little prodding and can inconsistently close the deal.  With the usual progression, they’ll get to Client 15′s level after 6 months-1 year.

When he came to me, Client 15 was already running around talking to every girl in sight.  He’s been doing it for a long enough time that he has little to no fear and he’s pretty smooth with his lines.  If you watched as a bystander, you would swear he was the biggest pimp you’ve ever seen.  He has women laughing all over, frequently having wild outbursts that have people questioning if he’s drunk (he’s not).

The thing is, he has a dirty little secret that he doesn’t tell anyone about and very few people know that he is no longer improving much at all.  In fact, most of the time, he feels like he’s no longer having fun because he feels like the only thing his efforts are doing is barely keeping his skills in check.

This is by far the most common situation the advanced person who comes to me  has.  He’s in the start of a slump, he’s no longer having fun he’s more concerned about keeping his hard-earned skills from slipping.

Let’s be honest, talking to so many women with the intent to make them like you and only achieving your goal 5% of the time?  On top of that, nearly 4 out of every 5 women will have NO INTEREST in you.  To pile on the pain, it’s a double whammy because you were TRYING to interest her and make her like you.

This is the exact reason I tell all my clients to do this exercise, to see both sides of the coin right after one another for the drastic contrast.  And let me tell you, there is a DRASTIC difference.

Better yet — let me show you instead of telling you.

Here are the results from the same group during the course of a month after the experiment.  The only criteria I gave them was that you could only log down your statistics if you used the principles of natural attraction.  As you can see from the data, each client talked to far fewer people while leveraging mother nature to help them attract a woman.

This is to be expected, because it’s hard to suddenly stop doing something you’ve been doing your entire life.  Fortunately for my clients, the learning curve to adopt this new behavior is insanely short because of the night and day difference in results they get.  Here is the same data transformed into the same indicators of efficiency:

You can see from the following summarizing chart: commitment efficiency went from 17% to 56%, which is a 329% increase in efficiency.  As amazing as that change was, ultimate efficiency actually went from 3% to 28%. This is an increase of 933% in efficiency.

A Real-Life Example Of What A 933% Increase In Results Would Mean

To put a 933% increase into real-world terms (since none of us think in abstract numbers), if you were working part-time at McDonald’s as a “Fast Food Worker”.  You would be getting paid $7.48 on average (source: PayScale).  If you average the usual 28 hours of work a week and work 50 weeks out of the year, you would make $10,718 after a year of flipping burgers.  ($7.48 * 28 hours * 50 weeks).

What kind of lifestyle is someone on that kind of budget living?  You’re most likely struggling to meet basic needs, forget about living “the good life”.

"Damn man, for some reason these girls don't want to come around my crib no more"

Let’s say now that you got that 933% raise in your salary at work.  Would this make some kind of difference?  I’ll save you the math, you’re now making over 6 figures a year and your hourly rate just jumped to $70 an hour.

"Flossin' On The Cover Of Fortune"

The kind of life you would have before and after that 933% increase are worlds apart, and the contrast in the dating world is no different.

What does it say about your character and how you feel about your own worth when you’re acting like you’re in the presence of royalty in front of a woman?  What is the overlying message when one person is trying to impress and convince another person that they’re cool?  The list can go on using traditional psychological evaluations for why this unnatural and “trying to attract” women behavior kills your chances with women to even worse than your percentages should ever statistically go.

Here’s a study on speed dating that mentions the change in frame that completely reversed a trend in speed dating.  Typically women say yes to their speed date almost 2x fewer than the men.  In this study with one tweak, suddenly the women are the ones who are qualifying themselves.  Frame is a powerful thing.

Deluding yourself into thinking you are more effective than 160,000 years of human evolution is pitiful at best.  Humans have been reproducing and mating for even longer than we’ve been able to communicate verbally with each other with grunts or other guttural sounds.

The truth is, everything in our modern society is designed to minimize tension between men and women.  If it were not, we would be “wild and untamed” animals who run around having sex with everyone everywhere.  Men are taught to be nice to women, to cater to her needs, to get rid of any awkwardness as fast as possible–even if the reason it’s awkward is that she just rejected your advances.

Think you can win against mother nature?  Guess again.

You cannot win against nature.  To put the nail in the coffin on this topic, here is a highly referenced article on how the mathematical symmetry of a person’s face directly influences a person’s perceived beauty:

http://www.intmath.com/Numbers/mathOfBeauty.php

So there you have it — statistical proof that working with nature always bodes well for you.  There’s only 3 things that are necessary in natural attraction and seduction.

1. Meet woman
2. Don’t break tension even when baited
3. Make sex offer

For more information on how to attract women, check out this free presentation on how to attract almost ANY woman from your first words to her within 5 seconds:

http://howtogetwithagirl.com/friends/