How Technology Can Get You Laid

Unless you’ve been living under a rock recently, you’ll no doubt have realized how quickly the world is changing due to the ever-increasing rate of technological developments.  Technology is being used to improve the quality of the simple things in life, like finding a new favorite restaurant courtesy of Yelp, finding business addresses on the go, etc.  If it can help you find a new place to experience some new orgasmic food, logic dictates that it should be able to help you find experiences with orgasmic new women as well.  Dating sites like Match.com, eHarmony.com, PlentyOfFish.com, and OKCupid.com have tried to capitalize on this for some time; but counter-intuitive as it may seem, these dating sites all have the same critical flaw–information overload.

There are little to no barriers to entry in online dating on these sites.  Unlike in a trendy nightclub with loud music, flashing lights, and groups of intimidating tall beautiful women that smugly dare you to try to talk to them, there’s absolutely nothing preventing you from engaging these same bombshells in a message online.  As such, an extremely attractive woman will typically get a few hundred messages a day from guys who think they are being clever or witty.  It’s no wonder that these women lose interest in the site and stop using it very quickly, leading to the 6% response rate referenced in OKCupid’s messaging study.  That means that you have will only have at best 6 women out of 100 that will even read what you have to say and acknowledge it.

The solution to all of this?  It’s simple really, and chances are you already have an account there.  I’m talking about Facebook.

Think about that for a second–if YOU already have an account there, then who else also likely has an account there?  Chances are the next woman you date will have a Facebook account already.  So in this case, Facebook is more like a directory that lists potential women you can date rather than qualifying yourself and submitting your résumé and life story to the cesspool of dating sites.

Now Facebook is inclined to keep the user experience clean and relatively pain-free for its users, lest it degenerate into the same fate that Myspace had.  As such, they make it extremely hard to randomly go around surfing for girls unless you know what you are doing.  Luckily for you, you will be one of those few people who know what you’re doing by the end of this article.

The first step to do (assuming you already have an account) is to do some spring cleaning on your profile.  Now you can definitely go all out in this step, and doing a whole revamp of your profile is beyond the scope of this article, but in a nutshell, make sure:

1. You have a GOOD profile picture of yourself up.  Generally these aren’t clubbing photos of you and your bros shitfaced and delirious.  Profile pictures of you doing whatever you love doing are generally awesome
2. Supplement this concept with more pictures tagged or albums of you doing what you love doing.  People love to see other people doing what they love doing
3. Set your privacy settings so that the women you contact will be able to see as much information you have on your profile as possible
4. Write an interesting or engaging sound byte for your tagline.  This appears right below your profile pic and is often the first thing people see besides your profile pic.  Make your first impression memorable
5. Where at all possible, don’t list any of the information about yourself in plain vanilla terms.  Once again, we are trying to show any prospective people our best selves.  If you’re ambitious, don’t say “I hope to make something good out of my life one day”.  Women are naturally more emotional creatures than we are.  As such, if you want to effectively communicate to them, then you need to inject something more emotional and gripping.  Check out my good friend’s bio I ripped for a good example of effectively using emotional writing to convey your personality.
6. Make sure you have a few hundred friends.  A good rule of thumb is 350+ friends at a minimum.  If you don’t have that many, do a search for a popular game like FarmVille, join a group, and then add a bunch of random friends.  About half the people you add will usually add you as a friend.

Now that you look presentable, and all that’s left is to go and meet some women!  Now before I had said that Facebook purposely makes it hard to just click around and surf for girls unless you know them or have mutual friends in common.  Others claim this is a viable method, but I’ve always disliked having to use the fact that you have mutual friends in common to engage a woman in a conversation.  It automatically makes her have to play by the rules of social convention since she doesn’t want to commit any social faux paus.  So what is the alternative?

Well we know already that Facebook makes it easy for you to find people you already know, so let’s use that to our advantage.  Take a look at a reference I put together on The 1000 Most Common Female Names in the United States.  For our sake, I’ll just take a snippet of the top 5:

Go over to Facebook and hit the Home button, go up to the search bar and type in Mary.  Now, since you want to meet people you can actually MEET in real life (since you know, you need to meet a person in real life in order to let technology help you get laid), go over to the Filter by: Location area and type in the region you are closest to.  In my case, it would be New York, so that is what I type in.

And almost as if by magic, you now have a list of every single girl in New York by the name of Mary who has Facebook (which is everyone).  Now you can go through the list, look through pictures and limited profiles, and see which ones you like based on that information alone.
So let’s say a prospect catches your eye as you’re scrolling.  Yeah the pictures are small, but all guys are trained to instantly hone into a female showing skin.  She looks promising, you click on her to go into her profile.

You’re greeted with the default screen shown to people you’re not yet friends with.  Still, you can gauge some information from it.  For one, you can tell from her graduation date that as a high school graduate in 2010, a question of her legality comes into play.  You are officially in the danger zone.  Let’s see what else we can gather about her though as we dig deeper.

You can click on See All under her pages to see what her main interests are.  So she likes 2pac, Las Seventies, and Ninja Saga.  The mental picture of your prospect fills in bit by bit as you look over their page.  Taking another look at the Wall tab, you see a rant by her like this:

Since only young people type liEk DiS, it’s congruent and pretty much confirms everything we already knew, and we can now move on to someone else.  Repeating the process above, let’s say we find a girl that we like and want to contact them.  When in doubt, remember to K.I.S.S., and keep things as simple as they can be.  I send a message like so:

Since we have prepared our profile for inspection by her already, we can rest assured that keeping it simple will indeed be enough.  The only goal of the initial message is to get her to read it and click through to your profile, where a little bit more of your personality can shine forth to her.  She’s either going to like it or not like it.  Similarly, the only goal of further communication with you two is for you to get closer to her.  Go for as many ways of reaching her as possible.  AIM, GChat, Skype, all let you talk to her outside the scope of Facebook.  This is the time to be normal and curious about her, but from a screening frame.  She has to prove she’s interesting enough for you to meet up with her or get to know her better.  Remember, everything you say should either be designed to build more comfort and rapport with her or to demonstrate what kind of person you are.

When you’ve talked enough on facebook and chat etc (however long this is varies by person, it’s however long it takes for YOU to get comfortable), conclude one of your messages or chats (preferably an interesting one) abruptly with something along the terms of “hey, I gotta run.  What’s your number, let me finish my thoughts in text”.  This is much more low-key and easier for her to give you than if you left it out since there’s such a strong social definition of what giving your number out to a guy means.

From there, you can largely ditch the online stuff and use the phone for most of your communication.  If you want to talk to her, call her or text her.  Then when there’s enough comfort between you two on the phone,  send her a text randomly with “I feel like I’m totally going to kick myself later for this, but what are you doing on Thursday night at 7:03 PM sharp?”  (obviously substitute whatever time for whatever time works for you)

Make sure you get a straight answer from her of whether or not she’s free.  If you’re getting “why?” and you can’t turn it around, then it means you have some more work to do.   Usually something along the terms of “not sure, what’s up” means she’s open to your suggestion, and that’s when you tell her “Meet me at The Frying Pan on the West Side Highway at 7:03 PM then”.  Follow up whatever text she sends next with “Oh, and wear something cute too”.  This will hook most women a good majority of the time.  For the ones that it doesn’t, it just means you need to try again later.

Remember the ONLY purpose in chatting or texting or talking on the phone IS to get her to meet up with you.  Don’t lose sight of this.

Once you’ve met up with her, you can proceed and seal the deal with a move I call “Milking the Intro“, and I’ve even put together a whole presentation on it for you over at:

http://howtogetwithagirl.com/friends/

Questions? Comments?  Leave them below.